A Lesson in How To Handle a Bad Boss 

3 Steps To Help You To Speak Up and To Give Your Boss a Chance to Respond

Resources to help you self-direct your WorkLife learning
Learning Resources From School of WorkLife. Resources to help you self-direct your WorkLife learning.

One reason that workers become unhappy at work is bad management. A bad boss can turn even a good working environment into an uncomfortable and unhappy workplace.

They are in a position of power, you, however, are not powerless, BUT you do need to take responsibility to speak up in an attempt to change the situation.

An essential strategy is to Speak Up: Having a frank conversation with your boss about the problem in a calm and professional manner can help you work towards resolving it.

Yes, there are bosses who are inherently bad and misuse their position of power, but there are also bosses who have lost their way and are behaving out of character, and there are bosses who are unaware of the impact of their behaviour.

The way in which you approach the conversation will be dependent on your relationship.

The key thing is to prepare and to approach it from an objective standpoint.

To do this, you need to:

Step 1:

Put yourself in their shoes to understand how they see the world and the workplace. To help with this, consider:

What keeps them up at night.

What challenges they’re facing.

What they’d love to do more of/less of on a daily basis.

Step 2:

Plan what you’re going to say:

Be clear on the points you want to get across and the overall objective you want to achieve from the meeting.

Step 3:

Be prepared for obstacles/objections:

Arrange a time to talk, keep it brief and to the point. Some bosses want to know the agenda before the meeting, and others don’t. Work with their preferences.

Anticipate their reaction/argument/defence — having put yourself in their shoes and planning what you need to say, you’ll be forearmed to deal with this.

The important thing is to speak up and to give your boss a chance to respond.

Speaking up rather than cowering in silence for fear of an awkward conversation takes courage, but you owe that to yourself and your boss.

Having a genuine desire to work collaboratively to make things work better can open the door to a new level of respect and trust.

A door that will remain permanently closed otherwise.

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POSTSCRIPT

This story was originally published on 28/6/21. I needed to republish it to add updates and also to tell you 

… The Continuing Story …

The pandemic brought about a change in my WorkLife from delivering in-person individual coaching sessions and group workshops to creating resources to help people self direct their WorkLife learning.

In the last three years, I’ve published 30 books and over 200 stories.

Each book and each story is based on real life struggles and successes that people have encountered in their WorkLife. They also detail the exercises that helped navigate through these situations, which are set as assignments for readers to adapt to their WorkLife situations and learning needs.

I believe stories are a powerful mechanism for teaching, a powerful medium to learn through, and a powerful way to communicate who you are and what you stand for.

My inspiration for creating my work comes from a lifelong passion for learning. My work has taught me that the one thing in life that can never be taken away from you is your learning. 

School of WorkLife Guiding Statement: To create resources that are helpful, insightful and inspiring in helping people to pursue their WorkLives with greater clarity, purpose, passion and pride by creating continuous WorkLife learning programmes and resources that are accessible to everyone.

The resources I create will help you take ownership of self directing your learning in your own space and in your own time.

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School of WorkLife helps you self-direct your WorkLife learning through resources that have been created to help you to take ownership of your learning in your own space and in your own time. 

What is Self Directed Learning? 

Self-Directed Learning is when an individual is motivated to take the initiative and responsibility on decisions related to their own learning. It is a series of independent actions and judgements free from external control and constraint. 

Resources to Help You Self-Direct Your Learning 

You may find the books below from The School of WorkLife Book Series helpful in meeting your learning needs as a self directed learner. Tap the book title to see a preview of what’s inside each book.

How To Live True To Who You Really Are

How To Use Your Voice To Express and Protect Your Identity

How To Overcome Your Fear To Live Your Life With Courage

Tap The School of WorkLife Book Series to view the complete collection of books. From here, you can tap on each individual title to see a preview of what’s inside each book.

Carmel O’ Reilly is a learning practitioner and writer. She creates resources to help people self-direct their WorkLife learning
Carmel O’ Reilly is a learning practitioner and writer. She creates resources to help people self-direct their WorkLife learning

Founder of School of WorkLife, Carmel O’ Reilly is a learning practitioner and writer. She creates resources to help people self-direct their WorkLife learning.  These include a Collection of Books which originated from her first book, Your WorkLife Your Way and a  Learn Through Reading Series of Case Studies.  which originated from her latest book WorkLife Book Club. 

That’s the power of writing (and reading, which is an integral part of the craft for writers). It helps you find, develop and tell the right story at the right time in all WorkLife situations – in day-to-day communication: WorkLife and feedback conversations, presentations, talks, and negotiations, at interviews, and when socialising and networking in building and maintaining good relationships. The practice of writing helps you to tell the stories that express who you are in an interesting and engaging way.

Published by Carmel O' Reilly

Carmel O’ Reilly: WorkLife Learning Practitioner & Writer Author of WorkLife Book Club, Your WorkLife Your Way and The School of WorkLife book series. Created to help you manage your WorkLife Learning. Blogger & Podcaster: Telling people’s powerful stories about WorkLife challenges & successes Founder of www.schoolofworklife.com My guiding statement is to help people pursue their WorkLives with greater clarity, passion, purpose and pride by creating continuous WorkLife learning programmes that are accessible to everyone.