How To Get To Self-Realisation And Self-Acceptance

To the Complete Realisation of One’s Potential, Which Involves the Full Development of One’s Abilities and Appreciation for Life (Maslow)

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By day, Kane, worked in eco technology, a job that allowed him to pursue a goal he had established for himself in his WorkLife, which was to play his part in helping to conserve the environment. By night he was a sushi roller, a job he had taken on to put himself through university. Kane took great pride in how he had mastered the art of sushi making, and he believed it was an art, one which came down to detail — Kane loved detail.

However, that pride was about to take a fall. One evening, Kane watched the documentary Sushi: The Global Catch. He was shocked to learn how the global love and demand for sushi exceeded sustainability; how there is no species that has fared worse than blue-fin tuna at the hands of humans; and how there was a growing need to put them on the endangered species list, because the population had been taken down by eighty percent — so that only twenty percent of blue-fin tuna are left.

Kane made the decision there and then to walk away from rolling sushi. Learning about the environmental impact of his industry, he needed to step away and do some soul searching. He just couldn’t believe that as someone who prided himself in being environmentally conscious, he had been totally unaware of how he was playing his part in contributing to the devastating impact on our oceans. This was the polar opposite of playing his part in conserving the environment. Overnight he went cold sushi.

As the weeks away from sushi turned into months, the deep questioning of the negative contribution on his part turned into a deep realisation of the steps he could take to a positive course of action.

When he could bring himself to watch the documentary again without self-judgement — of having contributed to environmental damage, albeit unknowingly — he slowly began to see different elements in the programme that he had blocked out before. From that his perspective changed.

 He quite clearly still heard the alarm bells ringing the danger of, and to, the sushi industry; but he now also saw a love letter to the cuisine. He began to realise that if he was going to play his part in saving the art of sushi, he must also play his part in helping to adopt more environmentally conscious and responsible practices throughout the industry.

The truth remained that the oceans were in crisis and that it was imperative that somehow a way needed be found to to rekindle the honour and reverence that first inspired the creation of this unique delicacy.

Kane always believed that somewhere inside all of us is the power to change the world, or our part of the world, however small or big that may be — and that is what he set out to do. His calling in helping to conserve the environment, from which he had set his WorkLife goal, was real. This had guided him to the work he was doing in eco-technology. Kane had a new calling, and that was to find a way to share the knowledge he had gained about sustainable sushi.

And so, one year later, Kane was back to devoting his evenings to sushi. He didn’t return to the restaurant to roll it, instead he began to share his knowledge. He did this by first creating a web- site where he published blog posts and articles about ethical sushi. He was once again embracing his love of detail, in researching and sharing facts.

Quite quickly he gained a following of fellow sushi lovers, made up of restaurant owners and workers, and consumers. All of whom wanted to seek to address the challenges being faced, so that blue-fin tuna and fish stocks in general would remain healthy for future generations to come. This resulted in him being asked to write articles and blog posts for various publications and platforms, to include sushi-restaurant websites. He was once again back to earning money from sushi in his night job.

The great thing about his writing was that it was evergreen. This meant as his library of work built, he had time to devote to the second thing he wanted to do. And that was to get back to rolling sushi, which was also a calling. But he wanted to do it in a different way. He wanted to show people how to make sushi, while all the time talking about ethical sushi.

And so he launched a YouTube channel, set up a camera in his kitchen, and recorded lessons. Once again he quickly gained a following of fellow sushi lovers, and once again this led to further work. He was invited by a TV channel to do a cooking class, where once again he could share his sustainable sushi knowledge, together with the art of his sushi-rolling technique.

Kane had gotten to a place of self-realisation, by exploration, which had brought him to self-acceptance.

Two Steps to Pick Yourself Back Up from a Fall Assignment

We all fall down in our WorkLife. Regardless of how self-aware we are, we can unknowingly take a wrong turn or do something that goes against who we are or what we stand for. To pick yourself back up follow these two steps:

Step One:

Take time out for self-reflection. Ask yourself questions without self-judgement about what happened and what steps you can do to move on from this.

Step Two:

Take the first step you identified, and then the next, and the next.
 A step-by-step approach is all you need to pick yourself back up from a fall.

Kane’s story is one of the stories featured in my book: How To Get To Self-Realisation And Self-Acceptance, from The School Of WorkLife Book Series.

The stories I write are based on real WorkLife challenges, obstacles and successes. In some stories I share my own experiences, and with permission stories of people I’ve worked with, whose names have been changed to protect their anonymity. Other persons and companies portrayed in the stories are not based on real people or entities.

Published by Carmel O' Reilly

Carmel O’ Reilly: WorkLife Learning Practitioner & Writer Author of WorkLife Book Club, Your WorkLife Your Way and The School of WorkLife book series. Created to help you manage your WorkLife Learning. Blogger & Podcaster: Telling people’s powerful stories about WorkLife challenges & successes Founder of My guiding statement is to help people pursue their WorkLives with greater clarity, passion, purpose and pride by creating continuous WorkLife learning programmes that are accessible to everyone.