How to Follow Your Turning Points to Create Your Next WorkLife Chapter
The Turning Point of a story is a moment when a major narrative shift takes place and the rest of the story will be different. (Source Masterclass).
There have been a few turning points in my life that have caused me to stop and think about what’s important to me and to consider what I want from my work and my life outside of work. Sadly one of those occasions was when my brother, Kieran, died aged just 42.
Kieran had lived very much in the present and enjoyed the simple things in life. I remember his wife, Christina telling me how in the summer, once their four girls were in bed, they’d sit in their garden and watch the sunset.
As well as bringing up four daughters, they also gave their time generously to supporting the families who had been impacted by the Chornobyl disaster, and every summer, they would have children from Chornobyl stay with them. It was important for them to give back or indeed give forward. Thinking about my brother caused me to realise that I needed to live in the present and make every day worthwhile. I took a step back to evaluate my most important values and consider what needed to change in my work and my life to honour these.
I’d worked in Investment Banking for several years. I enjoyed the work and worked with great people. It also afforded me a great lifestyle. However, the hours were long, and I wasn’t spending as much time with my family as I would have liked. I made the decision to leave banking and set up in business myself.
This took time as; first, I needed to figure out what I wanted to do next, and then I needed to retrain. It was quite a juggling act initially: working to bring in much-needed income while studying and subsequently gaining practical experience to launch my new business and WorkLife. Although tough, it was extremely gratifying, and from the outset, I was carving a lifestyle in line with my needs and values.
Now I both plan for tomorrow and live for today. At times it can be extremely challenging, but it’s also extremely rewarding.
When I begin working with a client who is considering a WorkLife change, quite often, it’s because of a particular turning point in their life, and they’ve come to realise that life is too short for them not to be living it fully.
In light of the reality that life is short, what are the important elements you need to include in your life to ensure you’re fulfilled and motivated in both your work and your life outside of work?
To get started in your thinking, take time to reflect on the following questions:
▪ What do you want to accomplish? Contribute? Complete? Create or build?
▪ What legacy or reputation do you want to leave behind?
These insightful self-questions will help you to self-direct your learning through effective self-feedback.
Self-Directed Learning is important because it enables a series of independent actions and judgements free from external control and constraint.
Turning points in your Worklife can cause you to realise that life is too short not to be living it meaningfully. The turning point in a story will perhaps cause you to realise that now is the time to create the next chapter of your WorkLife story.
Perhaps now is the time to create the next chapter of your WorkLife story.
I have used the Ukrainian spelling of Chornobyl.
School of WorkLife helps you self-direct your WorkLife learning through resources that have been created to help you to take ownership of your learning in your own space and in your own time.
What is Self Directed Learning?
Self-Directed Learning is when an individual is motivated to take the initiative and responsibility on decisions related to their own learning. It is a series of independent actions and judgements free from external control and constraint.
Resources to Help You Self-Direct Your Learning
Today’s story was featured in chapter thirteen of my book, Your WorkLife Your Way Draw Upon Turning Points to Create the Next Chapter of Your WorkLife Story .
You may find the books below from The School of WorkLife Book Series helpful in meeting your learning needs as a self directed learner in telling your turning point stories.Tap the book title to see a preview of what’s inside each book.
How To Use Turning Points To Start Something Different And Better. (Today’s story also featured in this book).
You can view the complete collection of books here: The School of WorkLife Book Series.
Carmel O’ Reilly is a learning practitioner and writer. She creates resources to help people self-direct their WorkLife learning. These include a Collection of Books which originated from her first book, Your WorkLife Your Way and a Learn Through Reading Series of Case Studies. which originated from her latest book WorkLife Book Club.
That’s the power of writing (and reading, which is an integral part of the craft for writers). It helps you find, develop and tell the right story at the right time in all WorkLife situations – in day-to-day communication: WorkLife and feedback conversations, presentations, talks, and negotiations, at interviews, and when socialising and networking in building and maintaining good relationships. The practice of writing helps you to tell the stories that express who you are in an interesting and engaging way.